Lovemaking Secrets

Andrea Rains Waggener & Nancy Anne Eltrich
Lovemaking Secrets: How to Find You Inner Sex Goddess

Lovemaking is one of the biggest joys in life. Yet many big beautiful women don’t enjoy this essential part of their relationships to its fullest. Many big beautiful women have major self-confidence issues when it comes to great lovemaking. Their negative body image puts up a big mental roadblock in their path to great sex.

Voluptuous women can enjoy making love to a man without the inhibitions forced on them through negative media and body image. Passionate lovemaking is not the sole province of the skinny.

Great sex is possible regardless of size if you know the lovemaking positions and techniques that will work best for you. Making love as a big beautiful woman isn’t rocket science; it just takes some practice and experimentation – both of which can be lots of fun!

At some time or other we’ve all seen products claiming to be some great sex secret, or heard of someone asserting that they know THE great sex tip. The fact is that having great sex isn’t a mystery. Self-confidence is sexy; and almost no man alive can resist a woman who is ready, willing, and able.

Most sexual relationships ebb and flow in intensity over time, but too often as other concerns intrude, couples find themselves in a sex-starved marriage. This can be the result of many factors, but often body images play a big part. The ideal female body image has changed over the centuries, proving one important fact. There is no one ideal body image. There is only what is popular at the moment.

Building self-esteem is a great cure for negative body image, buy how is that accomplished? First of all, remember that your partner is there with you. It’s a free country, so this must be where he wants to be! That gives you a huge advantage right away.
Now that you have your man at your side, how can you change the usual “sex after marriage” in to high-octane passionate lovemaking?

First of all, you must leave your negative baggage at the boudoir door – or put it out with the trash! Your man is there with you; take advantage of him – literally. What woman doesn’t enjoy being seduced? NONE! Guess what, men enjoy it too. Everyone wants to feel desirable, and that includes your man. Let him know how much you desire him by seducing him for a change. Get yourself and the boudoir ready for an evening of great lovemaking. Making love to a man can help you recognize your seductive powers, and it will make him feel great too. That’s really the greatest lovemaking tip ever!

Next, try out some great sex positions until you find your favorites. You could make a point of trying out one new position every week. Big women have a real advantage when it comes to making love – they’re built for comfort, not speed. And as we all know, speed isn’t the goal in great sex!

Big beautiful women are blessed with soft, cuddly curves. Use those curves when you’re making love. Build self esteem by learning to recognize how much your lover enjoys your curves.

Sex in marriage should be great sex. By paying some extra attention to your man, and making him feel good about himself, you’ll increase his attention toward you. The more great sex you have, the more great sex you’ll have.

The key to making good love is to keep your sense of humor and your sense of adventure. These are the best lovemaking tips and lovemaking techniques you can try.

Release your inner BBW sex goddess, and start enjoying some truly passionate lovemaking!

Thirty-one Ways Women Can Make Sex Great For Men

By Rod Phillips
Thirty-one Ways Women Can Make Sex Great For Men

1 Learn how he likes his penis to be handled

His penis is not like your clitoris - it's not highly sensitive and delicate. So he'll want you to go straight for his penis during sex, and once you're there he'll want you to apply a firm pressure (though you can make sex last longer by teasing him and working gradually down his body towards his penis). Learn how he masturbates, if necessary by watching him, and you'll soon see the kind of stroke and pressure he appreciates most.

2 Play with his balls

Because men are so penis-centred, they and their partners tend to forget how sensitive and erotic his scrotum and testicles can be. Play with his balls as you give him fellatio, for example, and he'll be in heaven. You could even try taking one at a time into your mouth and gently rolling it around.

3 Play with his perineum

If you haven't discovered the erotic potential of his perineum yet - that's the area between his scrotum and anus - then another treat's in store. You can press, lick, stroke and tease this area, right up to his anus, and increase his sexual excitement enormously.

4 When he comes, stimulate his anus

A finger on his anus when he comes can make a man's orgasm feel much more intense. If he's near his orgasm, it can make him come there and then. And if you put a (well-lubed) finger inside him and press his prostate gland when he comes, he's likely to have a massive orgasm!

5 Talk dirty as you make love

A lot of women are too inhibited to talk dirty during sex, but I'd say most men like it - a lot. If you tell him to "fuck my hot wet cunt" when you're both enjoying sex, he's most likely to come there and then!

6 Do something different

If you always employ the same old routine during sex, do something different. For example, try a different sex position. If you usually have sex with him on top, roll over so you're doing it on your sides, facing each other. If you haven't tried woman on top, get up there and ride him. If he likes rear entry (and which man doesn't?) then let him enter you from behind while you lie in the spoons position on the bed - that's more intimate than rear entry but probably just as exciting for him. Or take the initiative, and seduce him in the kitchen, making love on the table or the floor! These positions are especially fun to try when you're feeling horny.

7 Try watching porn together

Men like porn, and whether you appreciate it or not, it's here to stay, and he's most likely using it to get off. But the good news is that there is some nice erotic stuff around that isn't abusive to women. One name to watch out for is Femme Productions. Sharing a sexy DVD before you go to bed can really add a spark of passion and excitement to your sex.

8 Wake him up in the night for sex

A woman can always seduce a man subtly if she puts her mind to it. So see what happens if you press your buttocks up against him in the night, or if you press your hot vulva against his cock as he slumbers. Move your hips around a little as you do this, and he'll soon be raring to go. This might be best reserved for the nights you don't have an early start next day.

9 Use lube if you need to - or even if you don't

Even if you have a nicely moist vagina, a little extra lube is often a revelation. Just a squirt of Astroglide or Probe can change the feel of sex completely, making it seem like a new experience.

10 Try lube inside the condom

Just a little lube inside the condom can make sex much more pleasurable, but don't use too much or it might just slip off when you least expect it!

11 Be assertive during sex

Take the lead during sex, act like a sex goddess, and do all the work for a change. Men like their partners to be assertive and sexually dominant from time to time, because having the responsibility for always initiating sex is tiring and involves at least some rejection. It's a refreshing change when a woman acts as the dominant partner.

Yes, girls, men want you to sometimes take the lead and be sexually assertive. If you aren't sure how to do this, start by climbing on top of him - the woman on top position can be very empowering for you, and he's sure to love it. You can control the depth and speed of thrusting, especially if you tell him to lie still and enjoy it while you ride him!

12 Let him masturbate between your breasts

Ladies, you just don't appreciate how much men like breasts. Even if you're used to him making a bee-line for them when you make love, you still don't know....just take it from me, it's like being in heaven when you fold them around his penis and let him thrust between them.

13 Alternate shallow and deep thrusts during vaginal intercourse

Men often like deep thrusting because it feels more powerful and sexy - and it makes them come quicker. But a good plan is to switch between deep thrusts and shallow ones as you make love, because shallow thrusts delay his orgasm, stimulate his glans and frenulum (the most sensitive bits of his penis), and they also hit your G-spot.

14 Press back against him as he thrusts

You don't have to be passive during sex. Even in the man on top position you can thrust back against him, buck your pelvis, and add all your sexual energy to his. If you're having sex in the rear entry position, get him to stand still while you move back and forth along his penis.

15 Tell him you how much you want him to fuck you

Assuming your man is just like the rest of us, he'll want to be told how much you admire, like and desire him. Whereas women want to be cherished by their partners, the corresponding desire in men is to be respected. Telling him how skillful and desirable he is as a lover will press all the right buttons.

16 Masturbate in front of him...

If you feel inhibited about masturbating in front of your partner - don't. Seeing you bring yourself off is just about as exciting as it gets for him.

17 ...then make love to him

If you masturbate in front of him, he'll get so turned on, he'll be desperate to fuck you, and he won't last long when he does!

18 Teach him how you like him to masturbate you

Men aren't the most subtle creatures in the world when it comes to masturbation, so you may need to coach him in the best ways for you to reach orgasm. Show him what you like, how you like to be touched, and how this changes as you get more aroused.

19 Have your orgasm before he enters you

This is especially good for men who come quite quickly. If he goes down on you (or masturbates you) until you have an orgasm, the pressure on him not to come quickly during sex is much reduced. What's more, making love to you after you've had an orgasm means your vagina will still be hot, wet and swollen, and this will be a real turn-on for him, not to mention the fact that it will feel absolutely wonderful for him when he penetrates you.

20 Undress in front of him

Yes, we know you're self-conscious about your body. But here's the good news - he likes it. He knows it intimately, he makes love to it, and he sees it as a thing of beauty; he doesn't look for the flaws in it, like you might be tempted to do. So he'll love watching you undress, and if you add a little innocent seduction into the process, he'll get turned on and show you how much he appreciates your body when you do make love.

21 Buy some sexy underwear and wear it like it was made for you

You don't have to feel like a tart if you buy some sexy lingerie and act like a tease. High quality, pretty underwear is a turn on for both men and women.

22 Be wanton

It's a common male fantasy to be bedded by a wanton woman who'll act dirty and uninhibited. You can help him fulfill that fantasy by unleashing the sex goddess in yourself for a night. For example, try whispering to him when you're having a night out that you aren't wearing any underwear and that you're oozing with desire for him. See the look on his face and you'll know what I mean - but be prepared to have sex the moment you get through your door when you arrive home!

23 Ask him about his sexual fantasies - and perhaps act them out

But don't laugh when he tells you what they are. He may not have shared his innermost fantasies with you for all kinds of reasons; they may even be some of his deepest secrets. Even if you don't want to act them out, respect the fact that he shared them with you. If you do act them out, have fun, and don't take it too seriously.

24 Don't alienate him from the bedroom

Pretty frills and bright patterns and colors are all very well, but it's his bedroom too, and he may appreciate being consulted about how much lace you want around the place. In short, don't make your bedroom too feminine for his comfort.

25 Let his penis calm down after sex

Some men have such a sensitive glans after sex that they can't bear to have it touched for quite a while. So be careful of his penis after you have made love.

26 Explore his body

Despite being so penis centered, men do like being licked, touched and stroked all over their bodies. For example, a man's nipples are likely to be just as sensitive as yours - so encourage him to let you play with them. Some other places to stroke, tickle and lick him: his legs, buttocks and armpits; his neck and scalp; his toes; his back.....so that's just about all over his body, really!

27 Know how to kiss

Yes, it's nice to enjoy gentle kissing, but he'll certainly appreciate a bit of full-on mouth work from you from time to time. It hints at penetration and breaks down barriers to intimacy and familiarity.

28 Discover his favorite sexual positions

All the sex positions have something in their favor, but like most men, he'll have his favorite. It might be man on top for the deep penetration and feeling of dominance; it might be rear entry for the sheer pleasure of fucking you from behind; it might be woman on top for the pleasure of lying back and enjoying the ride. Most likely, it's all of them! But there will be ways in which you can make it even better for him, perhaps by squeezing his penis while he's inside you, or wrapping your legs around him when he's on top. Take the time to find out what turns him on, and he'll show his gratitude both in and out of the bedroom!

29 Don't fake orgasm

You're not a charity, and it's disrespectful to both of you to pretend you're sexually satisfied when you're not. If you don't make it to orgasm during intercourse, have your orgasm from him giving you oral sex before you have intercourse. Remember, very few woman actually reach orgasm through intercourse, and most they like it for other reasons such as feeling loved or giving their partner pleasure.

30 Learn to give great head

Nothing you can do for a man shows you love him like oral sex. Women think men like it because it feels good - and that's certainly true. But men also like it because it's the ultimate symbol of acceptance by their partner - that she will take his most precious part and accept it into her mouth. Good oral sex is at least as good as vaginal intercourse for me, and many other men as well, I'm sure. And when you know how to do it well, you'll have a lover keen to pleasure you in return

31 Develop a tight vagina

Apart from the fact that a healthy set of PC muscles is good for you, it does make a difference to men during sex whether their partner has a tight vagina or not. Some men say that making love to a woman who's had a child is much less satisfying - well, if the woman has toned up her muscles, with Kegel exercises, that need not be the case.

So there we are! Some simple tips to make sex great for men. Like it or not, sex is incredibly important to most men, and most relationships go a lot better when the partners are enjoying fulfilling sex. If you as a woman get satisfaction from seeing your man happy in bed, then the tips above go a long way towards making that happen.

The Importance Of Female Clitoral Orgasm

By Gabrielle

By far the most common way for a woman to regularly reach orgasm is through direct or indirect clitoral stimulation. Before we just into that subject, I think it may help to share with you some information about the clitoris.

The clitoris is located just by the vaginal entrance and behind the labia minora. In most women, it is a small nub of flesh which contains a high concentration of nerve endings which make it highly sensitive. It is often covered by a clitoral hood. Many people don't realize that only a small portion of the clitoris is actually visible. The remainder of the organ is surrounded by the rest of the reproductive system and extends all the way to the bottom of the pubic bone.

Two things are particularly interesting about the clitoris. First, all female mammals have a clitoris. This is interesting because the sole purpose, at least according to biologists, of the clitoris is sexual pleasure. That would seem to mean that humans aren't the only ones who enjoy the way sex feels.

Second, the clitoris is made from the same material as the penis. In fact, in men the clitoris becomes a full-fledged penis after the embryo is exposed to testosterone in the womb. Just like the penis, the clitoris fills with blood and becomes erect during sexual arousal. The clitoral hood is essentially the same as the foreskin of a penis.

Second, the clitoris is made from the same material as the penis. In fact, in men the clitoris becomes a full-fledged penis after the embryo is exposed to testosterone in the womb. Just like the penis, the clitoris fills with blood and becomes erect during sexual arousal. The clitoral hood is essentially the same as the foreskin of a penis.

What many people don't realize about the clitoris is that the penis alone usually cannot stimulate it. Because of its position in the woman's body, the ability of the penis to provide rhythmic stimulation to the clitoris is extremely difficult. That means traditional intercourse usually needs to be coupled with clitoral stimulation.

What many people don't realize about the clitoris is that the penis alone usually cannot stimulate it. Because of its position in the woman's body, the ability of the penis to provide rhythmic stimulation to the clitoris is extremely difficult. That means traditional intercourse usually needs to be coupled with clitoral stimulation.

The question is how does one engage in clitoral stimulation. Some male partners take the approach that the women should be responsible for the stimulation themselves, which has always seemed a bit unfair to me since the woman is providing him with the stimulation he needs to reach orgasm. However, this is one way to deal with it.

Other couples I've met with have resorted to an alternative approach. One person reaches orgasm at a time. Depending on how each person best reaches orgasm, this may be a possibility but it's usually not the most satisfactory approach.

Another method is by, what I like to call multi-tasking. Multi-tasking basically means the man does more than one thing at the same time. For example, he may be penetrating the vagina while also stimulating the clitoris in one way or another (we'll discuss those ways a little later). If the couple wants to achieve orgasm at or near the same time, this is clearly the best option.

The best thing about clitoral orgasms is that they can be achieved in many different ways. Because the entire area is highly sensitive, experimenting with these types of orgasms can also add some interest and spice to sexual relationships which may have become less enthusiastic over time.

And the key is experimenting because different women prefer different types of clitoral stimulation. While some prefer direct stimulation, others find it uncomfortable and prefer to have the area around the clitoris stimulated instead. Women who have masturbated will generally have a much better idea of what type of stimulation they prefer than women who have not.

As I mentioned, the clitoris feels up with blood and becomes erect like a penis. This means its usually easier to spot when a woman is aroused. Because the clitoris does not need to be erect for sexual intercourse to occur, clitoral orgasms will only happen if the woman is aroused properly. That means some type of foreplay is generally a requirement. When the clitoris is stimulated repeatedly, it becomes more engorged with blood and this further heightens its sensitivity. With another stimulation a point is reached when all of the tension in the area must be released and this point is considered the orgasm.

Myths About The Female Orgasm

Let me share with you two of the most common myths about the female orgasm

Myth 1: Women can reach orgasm more easily if her partner has a large penis.

Men who have worried for eons about the size of their penis can relax. The truth is that size really doesn't matter all that much. Since only the first two inches of a woman's vagina are sensitive to stimulation, anything over that amount is kind of useful during intercourse, at least from the woman's physical perspective. In fact, when men are overly concerned with the size of their penis and whether it's sufficient, their minds aren't focused on pleasuring their partner and that is no way to experience female orgasm. A survey done by the Kinsey Institute found that the average size of an erect penis measured from the tip to where it connects with the rest of the body is 6.16 inches (15.65 centimeters) in length. The girth of an erect penis is 4.84 inches (12.29 centimeters) on average. Both of these statistics are come as a surprise to men and to women who have been convinced by our culture (and possibly pornographic movies and magazines) that the average size of an erect penis is eight or nine inches. That same Kinsey study actually found that less than 2% of men have penises which meet that requirement.

Remember whether a man's penis size is below, above, or just average, he still has the ability to help his partner reach orgasm and that is far more worthy of praise than a few extra inches of penis.

Myth 2: If a woman does not have an orgasm, she did not enjoy the sex.

Most women have had the experience of being asked by their partner during sex if they are going to "get off." This myth is the reason for that question. The majority of men believe that sex without an orgasm is not pleasurable for a woman, but that's not true. First of all, even though orgasms are a wonderful part of the sexual experience, there is more involved than that. For couples, sex is generally a physical expression of love and closeness. Many women report enjoying this part of the experience immensely even when it is not followed by an orgasm. Second, just because there's no climax that doesn't mean the rest of the experience didn't feel good. An orgasm is an intense pleasurable feeling but it is not the sole source of sexual pleasure for a woman. Just as men enjoy the actual act of intercourse, so do women. Third, when men ask about whether or not a woman is going to climax, he is putting pressure on her to deliver and this generally leads to faking orgasms which actually detracts from her experience and could detract from his as well if he discovers the truth. Furthermore, when a partner is truly in tune with a woman's body, they don't have to ask that question: the signs of a building orgasm are unmistakable and cannot be faked.

Good News For Lesbians?

By Croydon Hounslow

The announcement of these findings in the Journal of Sex Research may have deeper implications for psychologists, sociologists and sexologists, but in the minds of those of us who are less well educated about such things it provokes certain inevitable reactions. My immediate and no doubt tragically male reaction to reading this was to think (and not for the first time) “Good God, I wish I was a lesbian!”, immediately followed by the slightly less whimsical “In that case, why on earth are there any straight women left?”. Now before we start, I should acknowledge that I am fully and painfully aware of just how clownishly ridiculous both of those sentiments are; but, not to put too fine a point on it, I am prone to bouts of knee-jerk idiocy. I think it's a male thing.

So, women who have sex with other women, based on the responses of 19,307 Australians regarding their most recent sexual encounter, are 7.1% more likely to achieve orgasm during sex than their exclusively heterosexual counterparts. “Hooray for boobies!” cries my mind on some cro-magnon level “simple maths: the more boobies the better the sex! Ug!”. As so often happens, I then second guess myself and realise I'm being, if you'll pardon the pun, a total tit.

I decide to look at things in a different, and frankly less appealing way; why is there such disparity in these figures? This isn't the 1950s, why aren't men doing a better job of pleasuring their female partners? Apart from the obvious cliched claim that a same sex partner is by definition a better lover as they 'know their way around the equipment', is there a lesson that straight men can learn from this? In fairness, it seems a little bit strong to start trying to draw such conclusions on the basis of a single percentage figure, a return to the survey results seems in order. Let's look at them from a slightly different angle:

Percentage of exclusively heterosexual women who said that they did not achieve orgasm during their last sexual encounter: 31.1%

Percentage of homo(and presumably bi)sexual women who said that they did not achieve orgasm during their last sexual encounter: 24%

Percentage of men (no significant difference based on sexuality) who said that they did not achieve orgasm during their last sexual encounter: 5.2%

Wow! Put it that way and suddenly it seems that straight women aren't trailing quite so badly after all, 24% of women who have same sex encounters are still going without orgasm, whereas men... Actually if we're honest about it chaps, it's hardly too surprising is it? A woman's orgasm is something achieved through subtlety, patience and not inconsiderable skill whereas most men could probably punch it repeatedly for long enough and eventually get there!

So what conclusions can we draw from this? This is clearly an area in which one must tread with care, so let me firstly state that if a woman wants an orgasm during sex, she should get one, and for a partner of any gender to fail to help her achieve this without a damn good excuse smacks of laziness and insensitivity. Now I have hopefully protected myself from allegations of unreconstructed male boorishness, I can tell you my theory.

It's no great intellectual breakthrough to state that men and women have their differences. We prioritise different things, have differing emotional makeup and do have very different expectations of certain things in life, even if we're not from different planets or locked in a perpetual battle as some writers have proposed. Now as a man and only an amateur sexologist (hur! hur! hur! what a great t-shirt that'd make!) I'm only partly qualified to comment on women's sexuality, but one of my responses to those statistics (and do remember please what I said earlier about knee-jerk idiocy) is that perhaps women don't necessarily see orgasm as the defining aspect of a sexual encounter in the same way that men do. I'm pretty sure one would be hard pushed to find a man anywhere, gay or straight, who would see a sexual encounter as satisfactory or fulfilling if it didn't culminate in an orgasm. If the same was true of women, would two women who understood first hand the female sex drive leave either partner unfulfilled in such a high proportion of encounters? Maybe men aren't doing so badly after all at fulfilling women. I suspect that, were we to compare these data with the same survey conducted in the 1950s we might find some much more depressing results.

Sex Secrets Exposed: Multiple Orgasms

By Terry Brazil

The majority of women who have experienced both kinds of orgasms claim that it is easier to have multiple G-spot orgasms than it is to have multiple clitoral orgasms. If an orgasm turns its lovely head towards you while the two of you two are playing with each other try the following. Try whispering some words of encouragement (and perhaps turn up the heat just a little bit), but basically continue pleasuring her through her orgasm.

Then continue and you will possible go right into a next one. If it still keeps feeling good for both of you, what's the point of stopping now? There is often a chain reaction with multiple G-spot orgasms coming one after another. Every one makes the next one feel even better, and makes most anything else sexual feel much better too.

However, as stated earlier everybody different, and the quality is far more important than the quantity.

It is true however that for some women playing with the G-Spot may become more likely to result in orgasm over a little period of time. Usually a few weeks or months after first starting to experiment with it. It is also very true that the intensity of orgasms may be directly related to pubococcygeal muscle tone This is another incentive for doing regular PC muscle exercises.

If you are a woman and you would like to try stimulating your G-Spot while masturbating try this. Use a good combination of toys. Most women would use a vibrator which can be used on your clit as you're getting warmed up as well as penetration.

In general it is not a very good idea to have a huge ego or emotional stake in having or giving your partner orgasms or multiple orgasms. Many sex educators believe it is not good to get "goal oriented" about something that's supposed to be for pleasure.